What’s it all about, seriously? How to grab life by the throat and proceed on your own terms!

Today, I’m going to write and share with you about how I think about moving forward…

No matter what!

Frustration of life

I believe that in life, if you are not moving forward – you’re not really living at all. Life is movement – always flowing, always changing… always surprising us with good and bad. There are many things we can’t control, but we can CHOOSE to keep moving forward, regardless of what life has in store for us. If you aren’t moving forward with the cycle of life, you’re going to become your own worst nightmare, believe it.

Before I move on with the article, check out this video:

“Father to son motivational speech about owning your own life… Making your own decisions and handling the consequences (triumphs and tragedies) with the same toughness and resolve. No matter how hard you get hit, keep moving forward with no excuses – holding no one responsible. Stop blaming anyone else other than yourself for where you are at!”

This is one of my favourite speeches of all time in any movie – what do you think?

Why am I even writing about this?

Because I believe I can inspire and encourage you through my words and work. So, let’s get on with today’s article. I hope you get something out of it.

Where you are at right now in your life doesn’t matter…

Forget status. Forget everyone around you who seems to be doing better than you. Don’t try to obsess over success either. Success for one person may be completely different for another. The man who goes to a job he hates, a job HE HAS to go to every single day of his life to put food on the table for his kids, may well come across as unsuccessful to many people, but to me HE IS A GOD DAM HERO!

And the same goes out to any woman who is devoted to her children, whether you go out to a job you hate to provide, or are just unconditionally there to serve your children – you my dear – ARE A GOD DAM HERO!

Anyone who does something they hate for the benefits of others is a true warrior in my book.

And if your own life is a complete mess right now, don’t worry about it. Listen, in one degree or another – all of our lives are a mess. Things get better, and then worse again, and then better, and then worse. It’s just how it goes… Life is a roller coaster of emotions, events – some we laughably think we control – but most we don’t.

Let go of control, it’ll only eat you up… It takes time to master the art of living in the present. I suck at it personally, but I’ll keep trying and keep going back to it.

And what about the super wealthy you say, the so called gurus, the coaches that you look up to and think are better than you in some way… What about the people who look so perfect – so beautiful on the outside… and what about the people who make it all look so dam easy in everything they do?

Well my friend, their lives are in complete chaos too!

You think being rich, or having such a super status on this planet actually protects you from the hurts and tragedies you’re going to go through, or that your so called sats can stop it from happening?

It’s all an illusion, and its all bull shit anyhow. Your house, your car – you possessions – our so called statuses, your wealth or lack of wealth… It’s all a complete illusion. None of it matters in the grand scheme of how the universe works.

We’re raised in a society where the strong survive and the weak perish. It’s no different to thousands of years ago. Where the strong may survive on the battle field and the weak will die. It’s a different setting now of course. We’ve evolved, but we’re still majorly flawed as a race…

We like to be right. We’ll even debate about who is right and who is wrong. We’ll even argue for the sake of it, often – just to get our point across. Go on Facebook and look at some of the threads and you’ll see exactly what I mean. Maybe we do it so that deep down, we can feel special – or maybe we do it to feel better about ourselves in some way. Many of us are in this mad fast paced journey to more success. (I’m often one of them too.) More career status, more wealth – more… more… more…


At least for a moment each day…

Let’s put some things in to perspective.

Look at the guy in that video above for example. My idol from when I was a young boy. I’ve always been a fan of people who can go from nothing and broke to immense success and worldwide inspiration. Mainly, I prefer the people who give back and inspire others to reach for their dreams. Stallone has always been a good example of this to me. However, not long ago – he lost his son. You think his status or his super wealth protected him from that? No!

From what I read, it was a sad unexpected death. A major shock and hurt for a father to have to deal with. Our deepest condolences go out to any parent that looses their children, regardless of status, wealth or fame. It’s not meant to be that way, right? We are supposed to go BEFORE our children, not the other way around.

Well guess what? Life is unfair!

The sooner we realize that, the sooner we can learn to accept what is and go forward – regardless of what is going to happen to us. It’s tough – we all know that deep down. Sometimes it’s just too tough in fact. But while we’re here – we have got to keep moving forward, even if it’s just small steps, but forward nonetheless. You have to learn to accept and move with life – good or bad. It’s the only way to survive the game of life my friend.

Take some time out to reflect on yourself, seriously.

When things are meant to happen, they will. If there’re not, they won’t. Stop worrying so much – don’t sweat your life in anxiety and stress like you have perhaps done in the past. Learn to embrace whatever is – good or bad. You’re going to have to deal with some shit one way another, there’s no escaping it…

We all have our inner demons to face. Some of us will never face them, will you?

Stop avoiding yourself, start today.

Everyone’s life is absolute chaos.

Some of the most successful people in the world are also the most messed up people you will ever come across. They all have huge obsessive compulsive disorders and other internal conflicts to deal with in one way or another.

What about you?

I have serious obsessive issues myself. I’m trying to turn them in to positive though… I use the OCD to beat the OCD. What do I mean by this? Well, I’m starting to understand how my brain works by education. Remember, the only real help is self help…

So now that I understand how my own brain works – I can use my OCD to beat my OCD. I do this by inputting my brain with constructive positive information, instead of stuff that will do me harm.

If I’m going to obsess about stuff, it might as well be something that’s going to help myself and others. So one of the things I obsesses about is online business and helping others right now. That’s called turning a condition that can be completely internally crippling (believe me), and making it a positive…

I’m not the only one who does it either.


No matter how messed up your life may appear to be right now, I bet you’ve got a little food in the fridge, a roof over your head – some warm clothes, access to drink cold water. And if you’re on my blog right now, I bet there isn’t an army led by a tyrant who is out to kill all the men in your town, rape all the women you cherish, and burn your children in to smithereens.

Yes, that sort of stuff still goes on today. We are often just oblivious to it all – caught up in our own little self made bubbles. That tragic way of life is not happening in your life right now though – Not today at least.

So basically, things aren’t as bad as you think, right?

Even when life is at its absolute lowest point for you, there’s always something to be happy about… something to be grateful for (even though it may not see that way right now.) And get this, no matter who you are, no matter what your so called status as a human being is, your physical time on this earth is going to end at some point anyhow.

Let’s face it. We all come in to this earth in a similar way, and yet we all have the same fate – REGARDLESS of who we think we are or what we have become. So do you REALLY think anyone else is better than you?

If so, how so..? We are so very similar in more ways than we ever care to think about.

You might as well just enjoy the ride while you’re on it and alive today. It’s ALL temporary, which deep down inside – you ALREADY know.

And if you’re reading this healthy wealthy affiliate blog, you’re probably interested in evolving as a person in one way or another. If you’re in interested in affiliate marketing or blogging, you’re probably interested in helping yourself too. They all tie in together.

But let me tell you this. If you can’t learn to understand yourself and if you can’t help yourself – the chances of successfully pursuing your goals become pretty slim. You need to know and understand your own tools, and then use them to your advantage. Even your negative aspects – use them to your advantage, period!

And if you feel like utter shit today, that’s ok…

Don’t be hard on yourself. The amount of times I tell people not to be too hard on themselves (even some of the most successful people I know online) is unbelievable. Even the most successful people I have come across still beat themselves up in one way or another. “I must do this, or I must do that” – “I haven’t done enough today” and so on. Try to do some constructive work when you’re down – dig as deep as you can, even though that’s the last thing you want to do.

But… don’t be hard on yourself

Read a nice positive inspiring book, or at least a chapter or two. Make yourself a nice cup of tea or a tasty hot chocolate – and just be good to YOU, seriously…

There are days when I do absolutely nothing. Days where I just watch pointless crap on the TV… When I’m really feeling down, I’ll spend a dedicated hour with the toddlers. They’ll either drive me mad, or make me eternally grateful for what I have right now. Either way, they help me to focus on the now – the rest kind of just dissolves, at least temporarily.

Children are so innocent, yet have this magical ability to make adults feel good in deep meaningful ways. Little children = Magic. Magic is their purpose. As we grow older, we seem to lose that magic within ourselves.

And so you all know, I have bad days just as much as the next person. I’m not perfect in any way, shape or form. I mess up. Sometimes my goals don’t get met. I often beat myself up over it too. But I’m learning to just stop that crap and just go with what is. If I’m having a bad day, that’s ok. And if you’re having a fantastic day – great! Use that positive energy and do something majorly constructive… Something that will make up for a bunch of bad days that are inevitably going to come…

You are blessed even if you don’t realize it!

The bad stuff you’re going through or what you’re going to go through is making you stronger and wiser. You may not realize it yet, but it is. When I look back on some of my own inner conflicts – only now am I starting to realize there true purpose.

Believe it!

There is good to be found in all the bad, in everything… And then you can always use what you’re going through to help others in some way. You may not realize it yet, but you have a purpose.

Maybe you have something inside of you, something you want to do? Something you haven’t done yet… I don’t know what – I don’t know you, yet it could be something really simple. Just know that you have the basic human right to do what you want to do!

No one has the right to tell you otherwise…

Remember the question I always ask myself when dealing with others… “Is this true and right for me, or is it not?”

Plus on top of that, and again whether you realize it or not – you can completely transcend everything (and whatever it is) you’re going through … We all have that ability inside of us all.

If you’re willing to do what needs to be done that is… In fact, if you’re willing to do for 365 days what most people will never do in a lifetime, you can live in an extraordinary life.

And if you can’t turn the situation around your going through, you can at least turn yourself around and look at it from a completely different perspective. Yes, it’s true – believe it!

I’ve had to go through the most miserable, painful, and depressing times of my life to have what I do today. To have the unconditional love around me that I do… To have the energy and desire to help other people. To be grateful for my life in the deepest way I know of. And to hold my contacts, JV partners and everyone else involved in my work (in one way or another) in the deepest respects and gratitude. That took time and painful lessons to learn.

I’m an introvert, or at least that’s what I tell myself. I have few personal friends. I like to spend time alone, or with my loved ones… A lot of time with loved ones in fact. Yet, it’s still a control thing, even an issue – whether I like it or not.  

And I’m still going through stuff every day. I am NO better than anyone else. But I don’t believe anyone is way above me or better than me either. There are various people I look up to who have more experience, more insight – and more EDUCATION than I do. They are therefore less ignorant than I am, but they are not better than me or you – certainly not…

Anyone who thinks otherwise is a self obsessed ego headed maniac, and it will only come back to bite them in their ass anyhow.

I don’t let my own inner shit or hard times get to me as badly as I once did. I move forward – do you?

In my personal experience, the most interesting people, the human beings who do the most incredible things, the human’s that help the most people, have the most impact on the world, and are the happiest within themselves…are normally the way they are because of the hell they once endured.

One of my latest JV partners and online friends saves children through heart surgery. He told me the years of immense study and practice he had to go through to be able to perform such operations.

The sacrifices… the pressure and more…

The kind of stuff I can’t even begin to imagine. Yet, he did it for the good of mankind. That was and is his purpose. A true humanitarian in every sense of the word…

I hope he doesn’t mind me mentioning him lately in some of my articles here. I can tell he is a very humble human being. But some of the most successful people I have talked to online all have gone through major hardship in the process. Being who you want to be in life doesn’t come easy. Accept that and again, it becomes easier to move forward!

What we go through can either destroy us, or it can be turned and held in to our greatest gift. It can even mould us into the person we want to become. All of the bad can merely be character building, especially if you have the courage within yourself to shift your own perspectives. That choice is yours and yours alone…

True Warrior

We all have an on going battle to engage in. They say… even if you held victory over a 1000 men and women, it means NOTHING. We all have our egos, selfishness, negative thoughts, and inner insecurities to overcome. Human beings are majorly insecure as a race, but it doesn’t have to be this way.

Is change upon us – will you change?

Everybody can change. It’s on you, always has been – always will be.

If you can’t overcome yourself, the rest is all meaningless.

We can give up, lay the fuck down and die a miserable death, or move and charge forward with our life… just like a true warrior with no fear!

Remember, courage isn’t the absence of fear – it’s doing what’s right and what MUST be done in presence of fear. To master fear, as with anything – you must learn to embrace it.

And guess what? Everything starts in the now, right here – right now!

Embrace your own life, embrace your own mysteries. Accept what is. Accept what you CANNOT change. Give up on the insanity and blatant illusion of controlling your entire life. Accept who you are, today. We all start somewhere, even if it’s with inner hate. Start today, right now.

Know that you are a being with limitless potential. Believe in yourself, or no one else ever will.

Be nice…

Embrace your fellow human beings. Love with your heart and soul – your entire being in fact. Even when it hurts sometimes and life knocks you on your ass. Get up and grab life by the throat. Say… TO HELL WITH YOU, this is my fight so give me your best dam shot. I can take it!

But above all my friends – Keep Moving Forward… That’s how winning is done! 🙂

I hope you enjoyed today’s article.

I’ll be tinkled pink if you can take the time to leave a comment and tell me your story? Even if it’s just a few lines – I appreciate you all…

I’ll be privileged to have you become part of the HWA community that I’m trying to build up here.

And if you do like the article, please share it with your family, friends and followers. From me to you – keep on keeping on.



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12 thoughts on “What’s it all about, seriously? How to grab life by the throat and proceed on your own terms!

  1. Hats off to you, John.

    Thanks for the reminder that you can fail, as long as you get back up.

    It is easy to stay behind a keyboard/screen and think you are all alone, forgetting that everyone else is handed their own share of crap, every single day.

    Good advice to take some time off, assess the situation and come back swinging.

    Here is to a successful 2014!

  2. Very true Johnny, that’s how life is – there are ups and there are downs. Got to learn to handle both of them.
    Success comes to those that never give up, which is exactly what I’m doing, so hope this year we all scale great heights and make it a grand success!

  3. Wow. This is one hell of a powerful piece of writing. I don’t mind telling you this brought tears to my eyes. Awesome.

    Reminded me of a nice Churchill quote you might like, “If you’re going through hell, keep going.”

    • Thanks Martin, comments like this motivate me to put more of this type of self help stuff on the blog here too. I think when we are working on goals, whether they be offline or online – we need constant motivation/inspiration. It’s a constant battle of putting in positive and letting go of the negative. In 2014, I am at war with myself 🙂 I am confident I will come out of the battle an improved human being 😉

  4. Wow!

    John you can get really deep and meaningful at times mate.

    That video of Stallone is excellent.

    I will always count you as a friend even if we never do actually meet.

    I am working away up here hoping that I can make something of this and it is because of your inspiration that I am doing it. There are many times that I feel that it is not happening and definitely feel like giving it up. Then I think what else am I going to do and I sit back down at the keyboard and check through some more articles to make them better and check I dont have too high a keyword density or I am linking from the product or whatever.

    I have to keep going so I can make things better and see this as one of the few ways I can make it happen.

    I will not be giving up unless circumstances force me to do so.

    Back to the articles mate!


  5. Gritty, honest, heartfelt. Thank you John! Reminds me of a few quotes:

    Man in the Arena – http://www.theodore-roosevelt.com/trsorbonnespeech.html

    He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has. – Epictetus

    This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of Nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. – George Bernard Shaw

    If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And if it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the biggest one first. – Mark Twain
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